Sunday, December 21, 2008

Ignorance is Bliss?

I'm not sure who comes up with these sayings we pass down from generation to generation, but I'd like to dispel this one tonight. Ignorance for our family was taking on the task of preparing a house to put on the market right before Christmas with no other family members living in it besides me and the cat. defines bliss as the following:

1. supreme happiness; utter joy or contentment.

Just being honest here, I'm not seeing anything that resembles the state of my soul these past days. Kit, on the other hand, finally found a moment of apparent bliss yesterday, but notice she was not ignorant about it. She purposely snuck behind the tree up against the wall where you couldn't see her from the front and was hidden out of sight.

As I've gotten the house almost ready for human habitation again, I now get to change hats and be chauffeur, nurse, and mother to Matthew tomorrow as he has surgery #2 on his "good" leg in Rome. It's pretty routine for us now and if all goes well, he'll be propped up on somebody's couch by mid-afternoon. Tuesday afternoon will find me heading to the airport to pick up the rest of the family who is flying in for Christmas. I am now starting to get excited since there are beds for them to sleep in and functioning toilets in their proper locations. It's the little things....

As I've worked in the house this week, I've hit a couple of grief bumps along the way because so many things remind me that life hasn't turned out like it was supposed to. After re-reading some in the book "Experiencing Grief", I was reminded again that grief is a journey all of us will travel, but most of us remain ignorant as to what it looks like and how to help those experiencing it. I think all of us know someone in our lives living through grief in some way this season. Take a minute and let them know that you're aware of their pain, that you care, and that the loss matters to you because it matters to them.

For my friends who number too many that have lost children, I'm praying God will hold you tight as you keep putting one foot in front of the other. While things are not as they should be here on earth, may the reality that someday all things will be made right comfort you through this season of hope through Christ.


Glenda said...

Your sweet cat had the right idea -- find a safe place to hide and enjoy being alone for awhile. I think when life gets so busy we forget to do that sometimes and we push ourselves more than God intended. I pray that even in the midst of family coming and all the "hats" you must wear, God will allow you to find a quiet place to hide yourself in HIM so you may find continued healing and comfort as you keep putting one foot in front of the other. Thank you for your honesty and for your vulnerability in the way you put your heart out with such transparency. I love you friend...and never forget the princess God has created you to be!

tawn said...

Jill, Thank you so much for your words. Thank you for being the friend that you are. I know the feeling that life has not turned out like you would have wanted. I can't think of too much that has turned out as how I would have chosen, but as hard as it is to handle, I know that God is in control and that is what keeps me going on. Love you, friend.